Every once in a while you find someone on the internet and you read what they write and you see what they share and you think, “This girl is like, super cool.” So you become “friends” on all of the social media networks of the day and you chat occasionally and like each other’s instagrams and you comment on their blog posts – but not all of them because that can seem creepy.
Then, if you’re lucky, one day you meet. And over plates of Middle Eastern food you share your stories of just how unpredictable life can be. How this reality you never imagined for yourselves is hard and demanding and relentless, but also at times wonderful and surprisingly amazing. And if you’re really lucky, your internet-friend turned real-life-friend is every bit as authentic and lovely and rad as you thought she would be (and not at all weirded out by the fact that you wrote this post).
I guess what I’m trying to say is that some of the most wonderful connections we make can spring out of the challenges that seem the most unimaginably tough. Sometimes it’s hard to own the albatrosses that come with parenting or special needs or just being human. But as Brené Brown would say, “Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”
By far, the most rewarding part of Bringing Up Betty has been building deep connections and sincere bonds with strangers-turned-friends as we share the vulnerabilities that come with parenting in the most unpredictable of circumstances. Thank you for sharing with me, and thank you for helping me create a space where love and belonging and joy can prevail because of your willingness to be real.
I really hope to meet and share stories – and plates of ethnic food – with more of you soon. Because seriously, you guys are like, super cool.